I think I'm healthier than I've ever been. I'm happier than I've ever been. I'm more myself. I can't stress that enough," Ellen says. "I think kindness is the key to yourself and to other people. ... I think I found out who I was, and I think I really try to be a better person every single day. And she [Portia deRossi , her wife ] makes me better." Ellen's interview on Oprah show , 09th of November 2009